WeвЂ™re lucky that we are now living in san francisco bay area where in fact the kink community is big and active and have now devoted areas for safe play and exploration.
Our very first experience had been 2 yrs ago amateur straight men naked at a workshop that is small The Citadel where in fact the workshop frontrunner, a seasoned Dom, supplied instruction on proper strategies in order to avoid damage along with which toys for all of us to test. We began with floggers, that I liked, but I happened to be additionally interested in caning, therefore the workshop was asked by us frontrunner if he would cane me. It hurt far more than We expected, a great deal that I felt nauseated, however the endorphins hit. After four shots, I happened to be in subspace for the very first time, and that had been wonderful. Floaty and mellow, we pretty much curled up close to my partner and purred for the rest of the session. Subsequently, weвЂ™ve acquired a fairly substantial model chestвЂ”floggers, paddles, canes, pinwheels and pet claws, bondage cuffs and restraints, spanking gloves, clothespinsвЂ”weвЂ™re exploring a full-time d/s relationship.
Among the things we love about kink and BDSM is the fact that, because we do stuff that may cause damage, interaction is completely important. Intentionality is very important, beforehandвЂ”am I looking for pain or sensuality or sensation so we talk about what kind of experience we want? Does anything harm? Is any such thing off-limits? Do I would like to take a subspace whenever weвЂ™re done? Has my head been rotating a lot of kilometers a full hour and I also need certainly to let it go for a little? Exactly what are my restrictions?